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February 20, 2014
Clear away clutter:
Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Gather up schoolbooks, toys, papers, etc. and then run a dustcloth over the tables.
Over the winter months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
I have to admit that I actually enjoy cleaning, the only problem is that I love to deep clean my house, constantly. My husband, on the other hand, doesn’t really notice the deep cleaning but does notice if there is clutter laying around, therefore the house will look dirty to him if there’s clutter regardless if I spent 6 hours of the day deep cleaning and not organizing and putting things away.
A home does feel better when it’s clutter free. Not only is it easier to walk around, find things and have available space to place items on tables and counters but it also is visually pleasing too. I wouldn’t want to come home from my office desk that has papers and post-its and pens and forms and Lord knows whatever else and then deal with clutter around the house.
Lets think about this for a minute. As humans, especially in the busy world we live in now, we are constantly on the go and don’t have as much free time to de-clutter. Our vehicles looked “lived-in” our work desk looked “lived-in” our home computer tables can have an appearance of being “lived-in” our closets, our bathroom vanities, the kitchen, our dinning room table, the entry table, etc. We are constantly placing things down in a rush to get something else that we don’t always remember to go back through and put whatever item we placed down back in its home.
What if you don’t have time to put the clutter away once you get home from work or school because you’re trying to apply Guide Rule #1 ‘Have Dinner Ready’ then consider a maid service and if you can’t afford that then higher someone you trust such as a neighbor or friend or even a niece or nephew that wants to earn extra cash. If you have older children start paying them to particularly organize and put clutter away from 5-6pm, or whatever time you choose. There’s always a way to get around to getting something done that you really want to or that you deem important.
Now, lets talk about keeping your husband warm during the colder seasons. If you don’t have a fireplace or live in a place that doesn’t really get cold enough to use one then consider placing out some fresh blankets on the sofa. These will not only keep your loving man nice and warm if it’s a bit nippy but it will also bring a sense of romance as you cuddle under it together while watching TV or a movie. Of course you can always put the heater on if you don’t have a fireplace but I’d opt for the blankets, they’re just more romantic.
Happy housekeeping and remember, you’ll get what you give!
February 17, 2014
Take 15 minutes to rest so you’ll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
This is a great daily ritual to practice because not only will your husband be pleased with his beautiful bride greeting him at the door looking happy and excited to see him with a glow on her face instead of like the kids, work and cleaning ran her through the ringer, but it’s good for you as well.
Studies have shown that taking a nap or resting a bit can help enhance performance, reduce mistakes and accidents and restore alertness, so why not block out some times. Instead of fifteen minutes I would take thirty minutes.
We all know that hair and make-up can help at anytime to boost our self-esteem and appearance but sometimes we need a little more. Here’s a list of rituals I do to help prepare myself or give myself some pep back in my step:
- Stretch (legs, arms, back, neck, fingers, shoulders, everything!)
- Mini Facial
- Cold Compress, Cucumbers (for eyes only) or a Put a damp towel put in the freezer for a minute and place over your eyes, forehead and/or neck.
- “Cat Nap” or “Power Nap” 10-15 minuets
- Quick Yoga session. Similar to stretching but Yoga will get the blood flowing better from head to toe which will give you a boost of energy.
- Take a walk
- Put some music on and just dance.
- Write in a journal. Some people feel so must better after a good “venting” session.
- Put your legs up. Set pillows under your legs to lift them above your heart so the blood flows in the opposite direction. Sit up for a few seconds before standing when done.
- You can also lay with your back on the floor and legs vertically going up the wall, in my opinion this is the better one. Lay for as long as you want but don’t get up suddenly Roll to one side and let the blood even out and then slowly get up, head being the last to lift up. *Getting up too fast may lead to dizziness or a headache*
Whatever you choose to do make sure that this time is for YOU. Read a book, ring a friend, do whatever makes you happy and leaves you feeling refreshed. A woman by nature is usually very giving, self-sacrificing and nurturing and can easily make herself last. Don’t forget about yourself everyday but also don’t make it about you all day everyday. A good balance can go a long way
February 12, 2014
Oh, did Mavis from next door insult your prize winning squash? Did little Timmy get sent home for starting fires again? That shooting pain in your left arm just keeps getting more intense? Keep it to yourself! Your man works all through his day and the last thing he needs to hear about is yours. Refer to the first four commandments on “How to be a Good Wife” Edward Podolsky gives in his 1943 book, Sex Today in Wedded Life:
Don’t bother your husband with petty troubles and complaints when he comes home from work.
Be a good listener. Let him tell you his troubles; yours will seem trivial in comparison.
Remember your most important job is to build up and maintain his ego (which gets bruised plenty in business). Morale is a woman’s business.
Let him relax before dinner. Discuss family problems after the inner man has been satisfied.
In his 1951 book, Sex Satisfaction and Happy Marriage, Reverend Alfred Henry Tyrer has more to add to that. Do not ask for things. This is called “nagging”:
I verily believe that the happiness of homes is destroyed more frequently by the habit of nagging than by any other one. A man may stand that sort of thing (nagging) for a long time, but the chances are against his standing it permanently. If he needs peace to make life bearable, he will have to look for it elsewhere than in his own house. And it is quite likely that he will look.
Unless your husband wants you to talk. Then don’t you dare disappoint him. Says Reverend Tyrer:
“If [the husband] is intellectually inclined, and from time to time seeks to explain little things to her so that she may have at least a bare knowledge of what it is that interests him, and, without the slightest comment, she takes up again the fashion magazine she laid down when he commenced to speak, we may be pretty sure that there is going to be a ‘rift in the lute’ sooner or later in that house.”
January 26, 2014
I photographed a wedding last fall where the bride had made a bouquet out of brooches. Up until her wedding I had not seen a bouquet made from brooches and I thought it was incredibly unique.
Brooch bouquets are amazing for so many reasons. They are sparkly, they make meaningful keepsakes after the wedding, they are sparkly, you can use jewelry from family members and carry a bit of them with you down the aisle, you make your brooch bouquet well in advance of the wedding, you never have to worry about it not holding up throughout the day and they are sparkly. It will be a keepsake for generations to come and don’t forget they sparkle.
Making a brooch bouquet is quite the DIY project! It takes patience and creativity. But it is a worthy endeavor. Especially when you are ready to walk down the aisle carrying a beautiful brooch bouquet of your own making.
Since that wedding I have done some research on brooch bouquets and where is what I have found. You will need 50-85 brooches, large earrings or necklaces.
When choosing your brooche you should consider a few things when choosing the jewelry pieces you are going to include into your brooch bouquet.
1. Colors- Choose at least three but not more than five color families and stick to them
2. Finish- Choose one metal type. Use either all shades of gold metals or all shades of silver. It gives your finished brooch bouquet a more polished look.
3. Size- Pick jewelry pieces in a variety of sizes. It will give your bouquet depth and dimension.
4. Sentimentality- You may want to include a few pieces of jewelry that have special meaning to you. A brooch your grandma always wore, you and your fiancée’s initials or the earrings your mother wore on her wedding day would all be sweet additions.
5. Value- Reconsider using any jewelry pieces that are worth too much money. The bouquet will be tossed around and set down all day long. It would be terrible to loose a particularly valuable piece of jewelry.
6. Inspiration- If you have a brooch that you love use it to inspire to colors of the entire bouquet
There are some great video tutorials on the internet to help with constructing the brooch bouquet.
As a wedding photographer in Northern Colorado, I love when I see something a little different that I can pass a long to future brides and grooms.
January 17, 2014
A bridesmaid gift is a way to say thank you for being a part of your wedding. A thoughtful gift should be both a wedding remembrance and a token of appreciation for your bridesmaids’ time and efforts. When you’re a bridesmaid, you give a lot of time, attention, and money to make the wedding perfect for the bride. This can include helping with the shower, planning the bachelorette party, answering a million questions from the bride, and spending money on things like a bridesmaid dress, hair, makeup, shoes, and gifts for the shower, bachelorette, and wedding. That’s a lot of work! Give your bridesmaid (or Maid of Honor) a great gift that is both thoughtful and sincere – she’ll appreciate it!
Bridesmaid gifts run the gamut in terms of price, style, and individuality. Some brides spend hundreds of dollars, while others chose to spend only a few, or chose to make the gift themselves. Some people think that the cost of bridesmaid gifts should correlate with your wedding budget. Others say that the more time your friends helped you with wedding planning, the more you should spend on a bridesmaid gift for them. There’s no right or wrong answer – do what feels best to you.
You can also choose to get everyone the same thing, get variations on a theme, or chose entirely different presents for each person. Try to spend about the same amount on each present, except for the maid-of-honor’s gift, which is typically more lavish than the other ones.
Many bride’s opt to give their friends jewelry or accessories to wear at the wedding as their bridesmaid gift. Tailoring the accessories are an option to suit each of your friends’ individual tastes, making the item an appropriate gift. Keep in mind this can be more a gift for you than gifts for them. The best bridesmaid gifts have very little do your wedding and instead celebrate your friends’ unique personalities.
Always include a hand-written card and wrap the gift. Say thank you for standing up in your wedding, be specific about why you value your friendship, and be sincere. She’ll love the gift, but she’ll really appreciate your sincerity.
A few ideas that stood out were: Monogram Robes, a trip to the salon for hair and make-up on the wedding day, Spa day to include Manicures and pedicures, jewelry, charm bracelets, clutch, large tote bag
Contributing to this article: Nina Callaway, Emmaline Bride, Janna Saltz
December 30, 2013
As we say good bye to 2013 I thought it might be fun to show you the other side of wedding photography and the silly side of us. I am blessed to work with my husband. I know no one has my back better than he does and that is a great feeling. I’m not saying there hasn’t been a learning curve working with someone as passionate about photography as I am. He always answers to “Mr. Barber” (his last name is Sallaz), “hey you”, “that guy”, with grace and a smile on his face. We seem to have found away to navigate life and the same career. I joke with him that we count the years we have been married in dog years because we work together.
Nobody poses better than a bride than Bill.
Selfie of Sherri with a fisheye lens
Bill doing a spell check for me in the sand at Highland Meadows Golf Course. You would appreciate the humor in is if you only knew what a bad speller I am.
Bill adding a little creativeity to the angle.
I am thinking of expanding my wedding photography crew.
I literally am giving the bride my shoes because her feet hurt too much.
Testing the light to balance it with the sky or just being silly because I can?
Bill rolled up his pant legs and went in to the creek for that perfect angle.
I only look confused 49 percent of the time. The rest of the time I am confused.
It’s raining again.
New boots so excited.
Wearing those new boots as the groom kept saying watch out for snakes. WHAT!
Riding the chair lift grand lake ski resort. I thought having the lap bar down was a good idea.
This bestman was really the best as he was also a sun shade.
We seem to sit a lot on the job.
You would think at 5ft 2 in I wouldn’t need to sit so much to make a better photograph.
Bill sitting on the side of the road waiting and waiting and waiting.
At least this time Bill is not sitting.
I wounder who legs are in the photograph. Oh their mine.
Bill is helping the bride and groom push the golf cart that stopped working. Under full discloser it was Bill’s fault it stopped working.
Don’t tell the hotel I am standing on their funiture with my shoes on. Sorry.
Bill on the upper porch at the Tapestry House. At least he’s standing.
I took this photo just incase he was eaten by a Mountain Lion.
Riding in a horse drawn carriage with no hands is not as easy as you would think.
Raining again, Thanks Tom Peak Impact Productions for the extra hand.
Bill in pursuit of his modeling career.
I’m sure I am saying something important.It probably sounds like how the adults talk on Charlie Brown, “wah wah wah wah.”
I’m working hard and look who is taking a little break.
Bill giving modeling lesions.
It’s fun to look back. I hope you enjoyed it too. Thanks for sharing you lives with us. I am looking forward to a strong 2014. I wish everyone successes, good health and happiness.
December 28, 2013
Colorado bridal show season is coming. The shows provide a lot of information in one place and can be very helpful in planning the big day. Here are a few tips and tricks you may want to use.
1. Look at the show.
Really look at what bridal shows you want to go to. There all types of bridal shows, and it is really important to ask yourself what exactly you want when you go to these shows. If you want to see the fashion shows, or some of the larger events, then you’ll want to check out the big ones. If you want to really meet some professionals and actually TALK to someone, instead of walking through a showroom type atmosphere, maybe the smaller shows will be more for you. If you already have your venue confirmed, do they have a bridal event? This will give you a chance to talk to professionals who are most likely familiar with the venue. Think about what you’re looking for, and look at the lists of vendors for the shows you’re interested in. If you don’t need a caterer, do you really want to go to a show that is heavy on caterers? You might, if you want the food. Think about what you need for your wedding, and what you want to see.
Ask for tickets! Once you have decided what shows to go to, ask some of the professionals that you want to meet if they have discounted tickets. This is a GREAT way to get into the show and talk with them, without paying a ton to do so. Most professionals will either have tickets for you, or help you figure out who to talk to! And for all of you non-brides out there that like to go look at the inspirational stuff – you know who you are – you can come too! Yes, these are bridal shows, and the main focus is definitely brides. But that doesn’t mean that if you’re not getting married, they’re going to turn you away at the door. These events can be very cool if you are planning any type of event, or just want to go with girlfriends to check out some amazing design pieces. Some of these coordinators and designers are super talented, I love looking at their designs!
4. Happy feet.
Wear comfortable shoes. I can not say this enough times. You will be hating life by the end of the show if you wear heels.
5. Not too hot.
Wear comfortable clothes and leave your coat in the car. Look cute, wear flats, and be comfy.
6. Weight yourself down.
If you have a heavy purse like I do, leave it in the car or at home. It will KILL your back by the time the day is done. Designate someone in your group to carry the bag and make sure to give them a bag that is comfortable to carry. Big wide straps that they can put over their shoulder. You get SO much information, magazines, brochures, and DVD’s add up pretty quickly and can get heavy. Be comfortable, and be smart about what you will have to carry. You don’t want to be lugging around huge purses and bags and magazines and everything else by the end of the day!
7. LABELS LABELS LABELS!!!
Print labels I can’t tell you how much time this is going to save you. Writing your name … a hundred time is not going to be fun and as a vendor reading your hand writing can be problematic as well. This sounds SO silly and dorky, but I can’t even tell you how many brides told me they wished they had them.
Here is what you need to put on these labels.
It doesn’t have to be super fancy, just full of information. I promise you, this will CHANGE YOUR LIFE at bridal shows. Your hand and wrist will thank you, and all of the other brides will be watching you put your pretty label onto things while they spend forever writing.
8. You’ve got mail.
Make a wedding e-mail for you and your fiance, that way you can keep all the amazing ideas, offers, etc. In one place!
9. Be kind to the one you love!
It’s ok not to bring the groom. I know this might be fighting words but here is the honest truth ladies. If he does not want to come why torturer the poor boy. Bring your mom, sister, mother-in-law to be, BFF BUT if the groom doesn’t want to come it is ok. Do him a favor and streamline the process for him. Go to the show and weed out those vendors you are not interested in. Set up an appointment for a later date with the vendors you are interested in and bring him along. That really is true love.
10. Who was that vendor?
Bring a notebook and pen to make notes, mark down vendors you would like to visit later and ideas you really like. ie: Sherri Barber Photography
December 27, 2013
As the wedding planning is going on for the 2014 brides, the invitations will start to go out. If you have not experienced the frustrations of the RSVP you will. Most hosts often do not receive responses to the invitation. Therefore, hosts can’t tell how many guests plan to attend their parties, even if an RSVP is clearly requested. This could mean either one of two things. First it could mean that rudeness is a growing trend in our society. Or, as I would prefer to believe, people no longer understand what the term means. Assuming the best, and that the reason guests don’t RSVP to an invitation is a case of ignorance, not rudeness, I will clarify this for the record.
The term RSVP comes from the French expression “répondez s’il vous plaît”, meaning “please respond”. If RSVP is written on an invitation it means the invited guest must tell the host whether or not they plan to attend the party. It does not mean to respond only if you’re coming, and it does not mean respond only if you’re not coming. It means the host needs a definite head count for the planned event, and needs it by the date specified on the invitation.
Some forget; others procrastinate and then feel guilty, so they delay even longer. An incomplete list of respondents can cause numerous problems for a host including difficulty in planning food quantities, issues relating to minimum guarantees with catering halls, uncertainty over the number of party favors and difficulties in planning appropriate seating, among other things.
Give guests at least 15 days between the invitation’s arrival and the RSVP deadline to figure out the logistics. Sending pre-stamped enclosure cards or permitting RSVP via email may also encourage guests to respond faster.
Approximately one week before the numbers are due to vendors, make follow-up calls to guests who have yet to reply. This is a great time to ask your wedding party or family for some help.
Emily Post says You have no choice but to call those who haven’t responded and ask whether they plan to come to your event or celebration. Be kind and non accusatory.
Do’s and Don’ts of the RSVP
DO respond. The most important part of the RSVP is the Respond. No matter if you can or cannot attend, let the host know as soon as your plans are set. Follow the requested form of communication or, if none is listed, call the host to rsvp.
DON’T make excuses. It’s perfectly fine to let your host know that you cannot make an event because you are out of town or because you have family obligations, but keep all rationale short and simple. If you aren’t attending an event because you are headed to a mutual friend’s competing event or because you’d just rather not attend, decline gracefully and without excuses. If you’d rather not go, just rsvp well in advance that you won’t be there. No excuse needed and making one up will only backfire.
DO direct your response to the host. For more formal events, such as bridal showers, often the guest of honor isn’t the person sending out the invitations. Do respond directly to the host. Hosting an event where you don’t know all the guests directly is a lot of work and shouldn’t have to include tracking down guests’ plans. You can also let the guest of honor know, but that alone does not fulfill your RSVP duties.
DON’T add plus ones. For informal occasions, such as a holiday cocktail party, it’s simple to just ask the host when RSVPing if you can bring along your significant other or a friend you’d like her to meet. For formal occasions from a wedding to a seated dinner, no plus ones unless the invitation specified to bring a guest. If you really feel your significant other was meant to be included, you can ask to clarify but have to understand if the host says no.
DO be clear about your plans. On wedding invitations, sometimes there are multiple boxes to check. Try to make sure you have clearly marked which wedding events you plan to attend, how many people will be in your party, or the type of meal you’d like, if asked on the RSVP card. This keeps the bride and groom from having to track down this information and keeps your vegetarian date from being served the beef.
DON’T text when your plans change. When the kid gets sick last minute or you have to stay late at work, do take the time to call your host to update them. Likewise, if you miss the event unexpectedly and want to apologize the next, pick up the phone. It’s just nicer than getting a text.
Contributing to this article is
Rue Daily, Miss Manners,Real Simple
September 30, 2011
We are always seeing new and different things at weddings. Last week at Nicole and Zach’s wedding they had “Too Much Fun DJ” at their reception. Neil and Beth at www.toomuchfundj.com bring light plywood guitar cut outs and stage a “guitar hero” competition. TOO MUCH FUN!
While many people think of the DJ as someone who just plays the music, the DJ actually has a very important role in setting both the pace and tone of the reception. In addition to playing music that gets people out of their seats and on the dance floor, the DJ is also responsible for making sure all activities fit within the time allotted for the reception. Having a DJ that can connect well with the crowd and keep the celebration moving along smoothly can make the difference between a wedding reception, where everyone is involved and enjoying themselves, and a reception where everyone is sitting in their seats.
Hiring a quality DJ for your wedding is definitely important, so take the time to do your research. You can often learn a lot about a DJ by reading reviews. Consider asking your friends and recently married couples for recommendations too. Don’t just let price dictate your decision. Just because one DJ may charge more doesn’t necessarily mean they’re better. Choose a DJ you really like. Even if they’re a little more expensive, it’s worth a few extra dollars to have a DJ who you are confident will make your special day that much more memorable.
April 26, 2011
Choosing a wedding photographer is a very important decision. So what do you look for in a wedding photographer, and how do you choose? Find a wedding photographer you feel confident in. A reputable photographer will be able to show you samples of their work so you can see the style and quality of their photographs. However, you shouldn’t make your decision based on their work alone. You also want a photographer you feel comfortable with. Remember, this individual will be close to you all day so you want him or her to be able to blend in and mingle well with your family and friends, as well as your wedding coordinator.
Spending some time talking to any photographer you are considering and asking questions is a good way to gauge their personality and see if they will be a good fit. You don’t want your wedding photographer to be distracting. He or she should act professionally, dress for the occasion, and be organized in order to capture all the important moments of your wedding day and take the photographs you want without constant guidance. Feel free to ask questions about his or her process and request references so you can hear what other couples have to say about their experience. A reputable photographer should happily offer references for you to contact.
The photography packages available are also something to consider, as you want to find a package that meets your needs. Some options that may be included in a package are: allotted photography hours on the day of the wedding, photo editing, prints, digital copies of photographs, negatives, and a photo album. The photographer may also offer additional services that you may want to consider such as a photo booth or videography.
If you are looking for a wedding photographer in the Denver, Colorado area, consider Sherri Barber Photography. Browse our gallery to view samples of our work and feel free to contact us if you have any questions about our services or availability. We understand how important your wedding day is and are prepared to capture those emotional moments for you to cherish forever.
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